Exit Stage Left

Nicole D. Hayes, Founder, Voices Against the Grain

Nicole D. Hayes, Founder, Voices Against the Grain

“Exit stage left.” I like saying that phrase. You can say it with a smile or with all seriousness. Wikitionary defines the theater phrase in these ways: “to exit or disappear in a quiet, non-dramatic fashion, making way for more interesting events,” or “leave the scene and don’t make a fuss,” and last, “the disappearance of a character.”

I particularly think of “exit stage left” when you’re a single Christian and the person who wants to date you is only pretending to be interested in your “Jesus talk.” In truth, they wish you’d keep your “Jesus talk” to yourself, particularly in public spaces. Shhh! In fact, your mere enthusiasm for the Lord, sharing what He has done for you, makes them want to change the subject or dismiss it by saying something like, “Golly gee, that’s great. Can you pass the bread, please?” This same person also can’t wait to draw you into their carnal desires and dirty jokes hoping you’ll be more enticed by putting a toe in darkness rather than walking in holiness and light. You know the type.

Here’s where “exit stage left” comes in. For my single people, particularly my ladies, if the person who wants to court you/date you views you as a crazy or radical for joyously sharing about your love for the King of Kings, Lord of Lords, your Savior, Redeemer, Jesus Christ, then kindly tell them to “exit stage left.” You are giving permission for this character to “disappear.” You’re also giving way for the right godly mate to come into your life.


Before you venture too far down this dating path, 2 Corinthians 6:14 reminds us to “Be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” (King James Version)

This is not the time to continue dating this person, hoping they will change and “see the light.” Pray for them, show them God’s love and bid them well. “Exit stage left.”


Nicole D. Hayes is the founder of Voices Against the Grain, a bold teaching ministry launched in May 2013. Nicole’s purpose in creating Voices Against the Grain is to be light in darkness, to boldly instruct truth amid confusion so as to bring clarity and restoration.

Learn more about Nicole D. Hayes here.


Our Mediator

“I need someone to mediate between God and me, as a person mediates between friends. For soon I must go down that road from which I will never return.” –Job 16:21-22 (New Living Translation)

Jason M. Alexandre, Voices Against the Grain Devotional Writer

Jason M. Alexandre, Voices Against the Grain Devotional Writer

Our text grants us some insight into the deplorable condition in which Job found himself. For he was at the lowest point in his existence surrounded by friends who rendered him very little to no emotional support. According to the testimony of his conscience, he was innocent. Desperation was sinking in and he was losing hope. Had Job forgotten the sovereignty of God? “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” –Isaiah 55:8-9

Yes, he was once known to be a man of reputable character, abundant wealth, good health and had a beautiful family. Yet perhaps now that God had allowed Satan to strip Job of everything the blessing of Lord was becoming increasingly more difficult to roll off his tongue. For at the beginning of his suffering he spoke with confidence, “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.” –Job 1:21

Our text indicates a revelation Job received of one of the sure benefits Christians would have in the future. For at this point, Job desired a mediator. Someone who would intervene on his behalf to reconcile himself to God before his body gave up the Spirit. For there is one God, and there is one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, who gave himself as a ransom for all, which is the testimony given at the proper time.  –1 Timothy 2:5

Do you feel lonely today? Do you feel as if no one understands? Do you feel forgotten?


Friend, I want to encourage you to be of good cheer. Take courage and persevere. For there is one who understands! His name is Jesus the Christ. He is nearby if you should choose to call on him. Since he himself has gone through suffering and testing, he is able to help us when we are being tested. –Hebrews 2:14

Often times God will allow fiery trials and testing to come our way because he is refining us, sanctifying us and preparing us for a deeper intimate fellowship with himself even if that means bearing provocation in this present earthly life. For God called you to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for you. He is your example, and you must follow in his steps. 1 Peter 2:21

He is our High Priest rooting us on every step of the way. You are not alone “but now Jesus, our High Priest, has been given a ministry that is far superior to the old priesthood, for He is the one who mediates for us a better covenant with God, based on better promises.”Hebrews 8:6

And God can be trusted to keep his promises. His track record is without blemish.

For God is not a man, so he does not lie. He is not human, so he does not change his mind. Has he spoken and failed to act? Has he ever promised and not carried it through? –Numbers 23:19

Like Job, may we speak with resounding faith in the midst of our trials “but he knows where I am going. And when he tests me, I will come out as pure as gold.” –Job 23:10 Amen


Jason’s vision is for the gospel to continue to spread throughout the world and believes it is Christian’s responsibility to carry out this mission effectively. To learn more about the organization for which Jason volunteers, please visit www.HaitiChristianity.org.

Learn more about Jason M. Alexandre here.