Exit Stage Left

Nicole D. Hayes, Founder, Voices Against the Grain

Nicole D. Hayes, Founder, Voices Against the Grain

“Exit stage left.” I like saying that phrase. You can say it with a smile or with all seriousness. Wikitionary defines the theater phrase in these ways: “to exit or disappear in a quiet, non-dramatic fashion, making way for more interesting events,” or “leave the scene and don’t make a fuss,” and last, “the disappearance of a character.”

I particularly think of “exit stage left” when you’re a single Christian and the person who wants to date you is only pretending to be interested in your “Jesus talk.” In truth, they wish you’d keep your “Jesus talk” to yourself, particularly in public spaces. Shhh! In fact, your mere enthusiasm for the Lord, sharing what He has done for you, makes them want to change the subject or dismiss it by saying something like, “Golly gee, that’s great. Can you pass the bread, please?” This same person also can’t wait to draw you into their carnal desires and dirty jokes hoping you’ll be more enticed by putting a toe in darkness rather than walking in holiness and light. You know the type.

Here’s where “exit stage left” comes in. For my single people, particularly my ladies, if the person who wants to court you/date you views you as a crazy or radical for joyously sharing about your love for the King of Kings, Lord of Lords, your Savior, Redeemer, Jesus Christ, then kindly tell them to “exit stage left.” You are giving permission for this character to “disappear.” You’re also giving way for the right godly mate to come into your life.


Before you venture too far down this dating path, 2 Corinthians 6:14 reminds us to “Be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” (King James Version)

This is not the time to continue dating this person, hoping they will change and “see the light.” Pray for them, show them God’s love and bid them well. “Exit stage left.”


Nicole D. Hayes is the founder of Voices Against the Grain, a bold teaching ministry launched in May 2013. Nicole’s purpose in creating Voices Against the Grain is to be light in darkness, to boldly instruct truth amid confusion so as to bring clarity and restoration.

Learn more about Nicole D. Hayes here.


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